Well this year is the first 4th of July we have a baby in our home, and I’m discovering that the sounds of fireworks that once didn’t really bother me – now provide me with a concern of waking my sleeping infant. These feelings got me thinking about how grateful I am to have a considerate husband. Several years ago, we had a neighbor who was a combat veteran. When Ryan discovered this, he always made certain to go over to their house and knock on the door to let them know we were going to set off some fireworks and ask if that was okay.

Last year, there were quite a few news articles showing soldiers with signs in their yards stating: “Combat Veteran Lives Here. Please be courteous with fireworks.” I thought this was brilliant but was shocked to see there was controversy around it. I guess some people found it offensive that some were wanting to put a damper on the festivities. But I can’t help but think of the sacrifices these individuals have made in order for us to have the freedoms and fun we do have here in the United States. And honestly the signs aren’t intended to prevent people from having their fun – merely requesting that others be courteous of those who may be suffering with PTSD.

So first I want to briefly explain what PTSD is for those who don’t know. PTSD stands for post traumatic stress disorder, and while it is most often associated with war veterans anyone who has been through a traumatic experience can have it. First, it is perfectly normal to experience a certain amount of anxiety and fear after going through a traumatic experience. However, most people recover after a brief time – less than a month. Those who don’t recover quickly and continue to exhibit signs of PTSD are then diagnosed. Some of these symptoms include flashbacks, bad dreams, frightening thoughts, avoidance of places or events that remind them of the traumatic experience, being easily startled or on edge, having difficulty sleeping, having angry outbursts, negative self thoughts, distorted feelings of guilt or blame, and the loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed. Many of these symptoms can make daily living difficult because the person often doesnt’t know when they might be triggered or sometimes what will trigger them. This is why being considerate of those who suffer is so important. Especially when we consider that roughly 3 million people suffer from PTSD in United States. That’s a pretty big number for a condition that is often misunderstood.

So for those who find fireworks to be triggering, the 4th of July can be a triggering holiday. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t launch your fireworks or have any fun! Just be aware of your neighbors and considerate of what they may struggle with. Often just letting a neighbor know that you will be letting fireworks off can be immensely beneficial as it helps prepare them for the triggering sound and potentially helping them avoid a reaction.

As always be safe and have a fantastic holiday with the ones you love!